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19 Apr

When One Gets Cold Feet

I’m not saying my partner has cold feet, but I’m not going to say that they don’t. I’m not pushing the issue, because saying “Yes” was a big enough issue, but…. I think the added attention of everyone saying congratulations (cards in the mail, etc) ended up being a bit overwhelming for them.

It’s a bit strange, however, when the other person almost refuses to say *anything* about it. True, we have not set a date, but not they’re acting like it’s never been mentioned, as if it’s not going to happen.

Take last night. Some friends were over (I was suffering from what ended up being a massive migraine that didn’t let go hold until almost noon today) and they congratulated us on the news. My partner practically winced. I don’t think I have to tell you how bad that made me feel.

Did I make the wrong move my asking? By posting it on the blog? or should I accept this just as part of their personality and act like notihng’s out of the ordinary?

3 Responses to “When One Gets Cold Feet”

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    Dave Says:

    Well, I don’t really know enough about the situation, you understand. But if it were me, I’d accept his reaction as part of him, and then do some serious re-evaluating about where I wanted to go from there.

    You didn’t make the wrong move by asking, though. It was time for you, and you took the chance. Sometimes the risk doesn’t pay off; that’s why they call it a chance and not a sure thing, y’know?

    I wish there some way to ease this. Hang in there.

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    Dave Says:

    Well, I don’t really know enough about the situation, you understand. But if it were me, I’d accept his reaction as part of him, and then do some serious re-evaluating about where I wanted to go from there.

    You didn’t make the wrong move by asking, though. It was time for you, and you took the chance. Sometimes the risk doesn’t pay off; that’s why they call it a chance and not a sure thing, y’know?

    I wish there some way to ease this. Hang in there.

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    Dawn Says:

    You made the right move by asking. You would’ve asked eventually, and for you, the time was right.

    As far as was it the right move to blog, I would ask — even though we love knowing what you’re up to and giving our support, maybe you need to clear these memos with management from now on. 🙂 It’s all about moving forward, not looking back!

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